How to Create a Frequency So Magnetic Your Desires Chase You | Katie Clarke

We all have a shadow self. It's the unconscious self. And the way that the shadow self is created is in moments of trauma.

In order to cope with the distress in the moment, our psyche fragments.

So let's say you were quite young and you came home and you wanted to show something to your mum. You're like, oh, look at this, look what I made. And she's really critical.

That's not resolved in the moment. No one came and told you, hey, it's okay, you know what, that's amazing what you did.

So your psyche tries to resolve that for you by creating a fragmentation. and this is how the shadow self starts to be born.

She's a spiritual coach who is here to teach you how to stop chasing your desires and instead start magnetically attracting to them.

Please welcome Katie Clark. The real keys I want to give people is the fact that you can heal this stuff.

It doesn't have to define you for your whole life. And in fact, there's a lot of freedom on the other side of facing and integrating this stuff.

How does that look like when you're working with the part of yourself that doesn't feel enough.

So facing these parts of yourself, it starts with admitting.

I know you talked a lot about shadow work. What is shadow work in practical terms?

And why do so many people avoid it even when you think they really need it?

Okay, so shadow work is essentially the process of making the unconscious conscious. So we all have a shadow self.

It's the unconscious self. And the way that the shadow self is created

is in moments of trauma, which is a distress that can be resolved in the moment.

And when the stressful event happens, essentially, in order to cope with the distress in the moment, our consciousness, our psyche fragments.

Okay. So let's say you were quite young and you came home and you wanted to show something to your mom. You're really excited to show something to your mom. You're like, oh, look at this.

Look what I made. And she's really critical. Like she's really dismissive of you. That's not resolved in the moment.

No one came and told you, hey, it's okay you know what that's amazing what you did

you're so clever no one resolved that for you in the moment

so your psyche tries to resolve that for you by creating

a fragmentation and this is how the shadow self starts to be born

so in that moment the part of you that's hurt the part of

you that feels harshly criticized party that feels like

they're not enough that part gets pushed into the dark into the shadow but not only that a protector part is also born at the same time and the protector

parts role is to protect the shadow aspect from ever getting hurt like that again.

So in this example, somebody who's harshly criticized by their mother, they have that part of them that maybe feels like what they do is never good enough.

They might have a protector aspect of their personality who's a perfectionist.

I see so many perfectionists and this is like the nuanced stuff, how perfectionism comes about. It's actually a protective identity trait.

So they don't get criticized again. So they don't get criticized again because if I'm perfect, then nobody can

criticize me and that means i'm finally enough wow and

we have not to freak you out but we have hundreds of

these parts every single person has hundreds

of these aspects within them except maybe the enlightened masters

and so like another example

of a shadow part just to give you a variety here could be somebody

who was really expressive as a child and they used to like i

don't know perform britney spears concerts for their family and in public and they thought they were amazing they literally thought they were Britney Spears until somebody made fun of them.

So in that moment that wasn't resolved. Nobody said no you are Britney Spears, you're amazing.

So the fragmentation happens and the part of them that's expressive gets repressed because there's shame around their expression.

And then there's a protector aspect born who's shy and quiet and doesn't speak up and people pleases and doesn't speak their truth.

So we have all of these nuanced experiences and like I said it's not it doesn't have to be big events.

It can just be moderately distressing events that we didn't have the tools

to deal with in the moment that creates these splits within our

being so then we have this whole shadow self that's

deeply unconscious we are not aware of it okay unconscious

shadow that means removed from the light of consciousness removed from our

awareness but we have all these protector aspects those

form our dominant personality those are the

express we have the repressed which is the shadow the express is the protector those are parts of your identity in who you think you are, but you don't realize that you're in an identity maybe that is self-soothing.

And so you might be going throughout life and you don't feel the need to do shadow work.

You don't know why it's important until maybe you set a goal and your perfectionist, for example, is standing in the way of that goal.

They're really slowing you down. You can't get anything done. You're in your head. You're overthinking. You're shut off from your creativity. And you're like, why am I like this?

Why do I need to obsess over a presentation for four months? Why can't I just send it or whatever it is, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Then it's time to look within and start to look at the shadow. And the reason people don't want to look at it is because it's painful.

So it's quite a deep reason why it's painful. I mean, it's painful because it was stored with pain, first of all.

If it was stored with pain, it needs to come up with pain. When you face it, it's going to be painful.