Turning 45: What I’m Loving, What I’m Over & What Actually Matters

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大家好。这是快乐时光，或者

Hello everyone. This is Happy Place or

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欢迎大家。我希望你们都过得

welcome along. I hope you're all doing

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还不错。我是费恩·科顿，今天

all right. I'm Fern Cotton and today

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我们要聊一些喜欢和

we're going to chat about some likes and

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不喜欢的东西。

dislikes.

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那么，我们应该先积极地聊聊一些

So, should we start positively with some

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喜欢的东西，因为我们想保持

likes because we want to keep things

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尽可能愉快的氛围。我

upbeat as much as we possibly can? I

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是说，希望整个过程会是，

mean, hopefully the whole thing will be,

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但我会先从我喜欢的开始。

but I'm going to start with my likes.

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所以，我刚满45岁，这个数字

So, um, I've just turned 45, a number

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在我十几岁的时候，我觉得

that when I was in my teens, I thought

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真的很老。嗯，事情是这样的，

was really [ __ ] old. Um, and the

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当你45岁的时候，

thing is, right, when you're 45,

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可能会有一些人正在看这个，

there'll be maybe some of you watching

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你们45岁或更大。我仍然觉得自己

this, you 45 or older. I still identify

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想说是24岁。这是我

as I want to say 24. That's the age I

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感觉的年龄，可能有点令人担忧，但我

feel, which is maybe concerning, but I

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还是喜欢同样的东西。

still kind of like like the same things.

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我确实成长了，因为我经历了一些

I haven't really I mean I've definitely

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事情。嗯，但我喜欢的东西还是那些，我

grown because I've been through some

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仍然感觉精力充沛，

[ __ ] Um but I like the same stuff and I

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乐观，对我所做的事情和

still feel like as energetic and

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我周围的人感到兴奋，就像我在

optimistic and excited by what I do and

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24岁时一样。但在你这个年龄的额外好处是，

the people around me as I did when I was

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24。但在你这个年龄段的额外好处是

24. But the added bonus of being in your

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以一种非常陈词滥调的方式，你对事情

mid4s is that in that very cliche way

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的关注减少了。你不需要担心

you give less of a [ __ ] about things

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的事情。我认为当你

that you don't need to be worrying

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活了45年时，你就处于

about. I think certainly when you've

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中年阶段。你经历过

lived life for 45 years, you're in that

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一些事情。比如说到45岁，你大概

middle age category. You've been through

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确实经历过一些事情。你

some stuff. Like by 45, you've most

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只是没有能力像以前那样在乎

definitely been through some stuff. You

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那么多。就像你真的不在乎。无论是

just don't have the capacity to care as

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生孩子、结婚、离婚，周围的人

much. Like you just don't. Whether it's

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离婚、去世，或者其他事情，

having kids, getting married, getting

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无论是什么，但确实是我们每个人都

divorced, people around you getting

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经历过的个人事务。你会经历一

divorced, people dying, whatever it

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定量的事情，然后达到这个

might be, but really personal stuff that

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阶段，你会觉得现在我

we all go through. you go through a

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不再需要在乎某些事情了。

certain amount of it and then reach this

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我不再需要在乎X、Y和Z。

point where you're like right so now I

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所以我认为在中年阶段有一个

don't have a give have to give a [ __ ]

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很大的视角转变，我对此感到兴奋。

about X Y and Zed. So I think there are

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我喜欢45岁。我应该获得一个

there's like a big perspective shift in

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写着“我45岁”的徽章。

middle age and I'm here for it. I like

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我45岁。我会去拿一个。让我们继续

45. I should have won a badge that says

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谈谈快乐团队。劳伦，负责

I'm 45. I'll get one. Let's move on to

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快乐团队，并照顾一些了不起的事情。

team Happy Place. Lauren, who works on

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快乐之地，照顾一些了不起的

Happy Place and looks after some amazing

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其他人。她是一位出色的经理

other people at my management company.

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和聪明才智，脑子里充满了

Um, she's a brilliant, brilliant manager

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不断的创意。我们爱你，劳伦。

and brain and has is just buzzing with

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劳伦说：“找到一部新剧，

ideas constantly. We love you, Lauren.

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已经有三季了。我不太确定

Lauren says, "Finding a new series that

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劳伦发现的是哪一季，但让我告诉你，

has three seasons out already. I'm not

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在过去的一年里，我不知道有多少

quite sure what season of what Lauren

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我经历了这么多年的生活，

has just found, but let me tell you,

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却不知道这些。直到最近一年，

only in the last year, I don't know how

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我才发现这种纯粹的快乐，

I've gone through so many years of life

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就是《甲板下》。幸运的是，

not knowing about this. Only in the last

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我还有很多剧要追。

year have I discovered the pure joy that

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我现在正在看最新一季，

is Below Deck. And lucky for me, there

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我完全沉迷其中。如果你看《甲板下》，

are so many series that I have to catch

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你可能会和我处于同样的循环，

up on. I'm currently watching the

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你看一部剧，

current series, which I'm completely

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你会爱上每一分钟，每一个

obsessed with. If you watch Below Deck,

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戏剧，每一个动态，所有的事情，

you'll probably be in the same cycle as

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无论是上船的人，还是工作人员，

me where you watch a series, you

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在船上工作。你会发现，

absolutely love every minute, every

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当你看到这一系列的结尾时，你会想，“哦

drama, every dynamic, like all the stuff

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正在发生的事情，无论是人们

that's going on, whether it's the people

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登上船还是工作人员

coming on board the boat or the staff

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在船上工作。你会发现

that are working on the boat. You get to

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系列的结尾时，你会想，"哦

the end of that series, you're like, "Oh

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天啊。然后又一个系列

man." Then literally another series

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直接出来，你会想，"哦

comes straight out and you're like, "Oh

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天啊，这是一整新的一组人。我

god, it's a whole new crew of people. I

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不知道这些人是谁。"当

don't know who these people are." when

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你在第一集时感到非常沮丧，

you feel really deflated on episode one,

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我甚至记不住这些人的

like I can't remember who these people's

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名字。三集过后，我比我的家人

names are. Three episodes in, I know

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更亲密地了解他们。你

them more intimately than my own family.

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已经抛弃了这一季，你

And you've ditched this last season, you

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甚至记不住他们。你真的很

can't even remember them. You are so on

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彻底接受了新演员的加入，

board quite literally with the new cast

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这是一群人。这是我最喜欢的。我爱

of people. It is my favorite. I love

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桑迪船长。如果你知道《下层甲板》，

Captain Sandy so much. If you know Below

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你就知道我在说什么。桑迪

Deck, you know what I'm saying. Captain

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船长，真是个传奇。我得去

Sandy, what a legend. I got to get

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让桑迪船长上《快乐之地》进行一次

Captain Sandy on Happy Place for an

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采访。我该怎么做？让我们开始

interview. How do I do that? Let's get

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这个进程。如果你认识桑迪船长，

this ball rolling. If you know Captain

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或者我该如何联系她，

Sandy or how I can get in touch with

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我愿意做任何事让她上

her, I would do anything to get her on

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播客。我们应该让它实现吗？

the podcast. Should we make it happen?

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让我们来吧。我喜欢。劳伦，那是

Let's do it. I love it. Lauren, that was

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非常受你和你的启发。

very much inspired by you and your

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本周的精彩内容。此外，你们这些

brilliant like for this week. Also, you

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亲爱的听众们发送了你们的喜好

lovely listeners have sent in your likes

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和不喜欢。艾尔莎说她这周的喜好是

and dislikes. Elsa said her likes for

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她的成年儿子。

this week are her grownup sons.

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那真是太可爱了。我不知道。就像

That's so lovely. I don't know. Like

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每个人对育儿的看法都不同，但对我来说，

everyone's got a different idea about

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我的孩子们越大，我就越享受每一刻。

parenting, but for me, the older my kids

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就像我的一些朋友说，"哦，我

get, the more I enjoy every bit of it.

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真的很怀念他们六岁时的样子，

Like some of my friends are like, "Oh, I

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那么可爱，他们六岁了，牙齿还缺。

really miss the bit where they're like

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对，那个时候，他们真的很可爱，

so cute and they're six and they've got

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迷人又聪明，但我爱我孩子们现在的年龄。

like missing teeth." Yeah, that, you

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我可以看到，随着他们长大，

know, they were cute and adorable and

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一切只会变得更好。

brilliant, but I love the ages my kids

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就像进行深入的对话，

are at now. I can see that it's only

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和孩子们交流，这真的很酷。

going to get better as they get older.

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我对此很期待。所以，我理解你，艾尔莎。

Like having like proper good deep

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那真是太美好了。艾玛说，"秋天的第一丝

conversations with your kids, there's

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迹象。我准备好享受舒适的针织衣，

something really cool about that. I'm

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蜡烛和脆脆的散步。"

here for it. So, I get you, Elsa. That's

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好的，我对此感到很矛盾，

gorgeous. Emma says, "The first signs of

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因为我现在的状态，

autumn. I'm ready for cozy knitwear,

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我们度过了一个非常美好的炎热夏天。

candles, and crunchy walks."

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我知道这也是一个很好的时光。

Okay, I am really split with this one

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