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Therefore, the Quran is always keen to suppress error at its outset.

From the first moment the signs of error emerge, do not remain silent and say people are free; it means that marriage was a means to an end, but now it is an end in itself, so if it comes with the religion as the parents want, he can marry the girl.

I welcome you all to this gathering.

A gathering of wise families with wise references.

And as brother Al-Mu'tasim mentioned a little while ago.

The title itself expresses the purpose behind this gathering.

That is, we cannot build a healthy family without a sound reference.

This family we want to reform in the Islamic world cannot be established.

Without being linked to sound awareness, because in the end, a healthy family is the result of sound practices.

And sound practices are the result of sound awareness, and sound awareness is the result of a sound reference.

Therefore, any attempt to sever the relationship between the reference and the family.

Ultimately leads to superficial reforms that do not satisfy hunger or provide sustenance.

Thus, I believe we should be frank about the essence of the problem we are suffering from.

It is not right to blame many elements.

The curricula of education, Western policies, and so on, all these elements are correct.

But these are not the root of the problem; the root of the problem is that we insist in every family reform process to start without the reference.

Thus, we reach a dead end and return to the beginning; now almost all Arab countries have family reform projects after they saw the state of family disintegration.

Well, and then what are the outcomes? Where have they reached? The dead end.

Why? Because the problem is fundamentally in the reference; that is why the title was clear: the title of this gathering is a wise family with a wise reference.

You might say naturally, we are Muslims; our reference is revelation. Who argues with that?

I say this is correct theoretically, but practically, if we search in our minds, we will find other references competing with the reference of revelation.

Solid references, and sometimes stronger than the reference of revelation in practice.

At the top of these is the reference of society in something called the worship of society.

When you tell him this thing contradicts the Sharia, he says, but society wants.

Okay, society wants, and the Sharia wants; which one takes precedence? He cannot collide in this way, but practically he goes along with society.

For example, you find a very high level of extravagance in weddings, and you tell them this is not logical according to Sharia.

They tell you, but how will society view it? They are in worship of society. What does society want? I will do it.

So how can you establish a sound family if the reference is outside of revelation?

Why did the Quran come at all if in the end, society is the one that makes the decision?

And if you look at the stories of the prophets and their narratives with their communities,

you will find that the fundamental problem with the prophets' communities is that they refer back to society.

This is what we found our fathers upon; this is what exists in our society, but revelation tells them what to do, or if their fathers do not understand anything or are not guided.

He refers them to the evidence while they refer to society, saying this is our culture; this is what we found our fathers upon, so let us stay with them.

And the Quran refers them to reason, and revelation does not understand anything; it is even logically contradictory.

In weddings, for example, you find the costs are very high, and they last for four or five hours.

Is it logical for a person to enter into high debts in their family life?

It is illogical, and the one who did this himself repeats to you that it is illogical, but he says society wants it.

So if you repeat that your action is an act of folly and you acknowledge that, yet you still say, what can I do? Society wants it.

This reference is the reference of society if we do not confront it frankly.

The result is that there is no benefit from the idea of family reform; this becomes empty talk that has no value.

Look, there is a Western philosopher named Richard Cook; this Richard Cook, in his book 'The Suicide of the West,' has a very dangerous phrase that summarizes the whole crisis.

He says liberalism causes Western civilization to collapse while being reconciled with its demise.